10 Things I know

10 Things I know:

1.)           My experience is mine and I own it

      I am 100%responsible for my life and everything in it

2.)          The past does not equal the future

      I surrender to the past and choose to live in the present

3.)         Whatever I believe I will achieve

4.)         Nothing is so broke it can’t be fixed or so dirty it can be cleaned up

5.)         Happiness and joy are now

     If I can’t be happy in this moment, nothing I can have, want or need will ever make me happy

6.)         Excellence is a habit, nothing more

     Therefore I can cultivate it daily through practice and discipline

7.)        I will persist until I succeed

Honor, grace, courage and humility are all gained through perseverance

8.)         Today must be lived as it is my last

By living in this manner nothing will be taken for granted

9.)         My life is fulfilling when I am living with intention and on purpose

10.)      Mastery is to do my duty, not to strive with anyone

This is the foundation for one of my programs I offer to teens titled “Its your life; 10 things you need to know” . I initially designed and implemented this program several years ago for young professionals I was mentoring and developing for roles in leadership and management. I later applied these teachings to my own parenting more as a guidepost to help me ensure I was talking to my kids in a way that promoted the behaviors needed to sustain them on their own paths. Honestly these ten thoughts have probably done me more good than anyone else as they are constant reminder to me to stay on purpose and focus only on the things I have control over.



Why in the hell am I doing this?

Well I got to be honest I was seriously thinking about that today, and whether or not I wanted to keep posting. I have been reading a lot of blogs lately and frankly they seem a little different than what I’m doing so I started to doubt if I was doing this right and should keep going. Maybe that’s the point, maybe that’s the lesson to be learned and taught, screw everyone else and what they’re doing and get busy doing what I want to be doing. I want to write not because I think I’m good at it but because I want find my voice and put it out there for the world (or at least the six people who read these). I want to know that at the end of it all I at least tried, I went for it, all in and manned up. It’s ironic that I talk to young people about following dreams, living with passion and not worrying about what other people think and those are the very things I was hiding behind. If I want to be a good dad I have I have to walk my talk. I have to do more than tell my kids they can do anything in this world, I have to show them by my example. I believe wholeheartedly in the art of the possible, I have spent twenty years leading teams and managing people and I know what is possible once people believe. So weather your straight dad, gay dad, divorced dad, deadbeat dad or any other adjective your still a dad and the kids are watching so I don’t know about you but even if it is a one person movement I am going to keep on keepin on and prove to my kids that anything can happen if you let it!


What I want you to know

I want you to know; I get it. Kids can be mean; they can make you feel like you are completely alone in this world with nothing to offer it. Muddle (middle) school can be the most vicious battlefield ever created by man with as much causality as war. I want you to know that these tumultuous years don’t last forever and in the grand scheme of your own masterpiece they really don’t matter, that is unless you let them.
I want you to know that you are never alone, and that you have so much to offer this world. Your life is just beginning and you get to decide who you are and are going to be, no one can do that for you that is unless you let them.
I want you to know that you that you have courage inside of you that is unmatched. Most adults, let alone kids are afraid to put themselves out there and be who they really are. Not you, your drum beats loud and you dance your own dance and for right now you may a price for that but in the long run it will bring you joy and fulfillment that you can only imagine.
How do I know this? You teach me this everyday; you inspire me to be who I really am to not hide behind shadows of conformity and other people’s expectations. You teach me patience and grace I never knew existed until you came along.
Most of all what I really want you to know is how proud I am too be your dad, more importantly how proud I am of you, not because you get good grades and stay out of trouble but because you are you and all the great things that come with that. So hold on, keep your head up and never stop dancing to that drum!

I dare you!

I dare you, usually the three words that predicated some of my worst life decisions, but in times much like this one those three words have also been the catalyst for moving my indecisive butt forward. That is where Poppiopushover was born; in that simple dare that I gave myself to move forward and get busy doing instead of dreaming. Awhile back my kids and I (I will get to them later) were at an airport waiting for a flight when my youngest son asked me to walk to the gift shop with him, being the industrious child he is he thought that if he showed me what he wanted and gave me his best persuasive sales pitch that he would probably win out…And of course he did, so when we got back to the other two kids my teenage daughter aptly coined my new name Poppiopushover (actually the full moniker is Poppio potty mouth pushover, but again I ‘ll talk about that later). The dare came later from their mom when she suggested I should blog under that pseudonym and now almost a year later here I am. Don’t worry I’m not going to write about being an easy mark or letting kids have their way with you but rather quite the opposite. I am very proud of my nickname because let’s face it there are far worse ones to have but really what makes me the most proud is the relationship I have with my kids that fosters that kind of communication and trust. That is really the essence of my work here, my kids are far past poopy diapers and saying the darnedest things, as teens and tweens they must face down drugs, sex and bullying to name a few and unfortunately they have to do this outside of the protective gaze of us, their parents. So through the lens of poppiopushover I am examining what it means to be a dad of teenagers and how to support them on this journey. That’s my dare, to be the father that doesn’t judge, preach or manipulate but rather leads and loves openly and honestly always preserving dignity and respect for all of us. Go ahead join the movement, I dare you!