Never heard of YOLO? Chances are your teens have and just in case you’re wondering its teen speak for “you only live once”. I know on the surface it seems fairly benign and possibly even empowering but it also can give kids carte blanche to make some really bad choices. In true Poppio fashion I can’t just preach to my kids that maybe this is not the best motto to incorporate as doing that usually just pulls them more to it, instead I had to come up with an alternative that keeps the same positive attributes but also filters out some of those bad choices that can be made in a YOLO moment. Instead of YOLO I talk about YLIN or “your life is now”. I want my kids to have that sense that they have to take chances sometimes and try things that may be well out of their comfort zone but I also want them to know this moment is all they have and it is right now. The best part about adopting this attitude, I have found, is I can follow it to set the example. I can walk my talk so to speak and instead of telling I can show them. As a dad I often find myself in the risk assessment business as I strive to provide in all ways for my family, while this is a noble act it also hinders me with my teenagers because it contradicts what I really want them to learn and know. Life is about choices and decisions I either make or don’t make but those are the moments that can define me so I need to be in the present moment as well thinking of the future impact and by constantly reminding myself that my life is now I also help them understand that this is their time as well and while you may (or may not) only live once you definitely will never be in this moment again so cherish it and think and act in a way that leads in the direction you want to move in.